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Masters Have Bad Days TOO!

Published Saturday, January 28, 2006 by rivka | E-mail this post

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Rico's new toy... yes, it's a freakin' dog collar that he thinks makes a perfect strap.


Yes, I know. As crazy as that sounds... it's true. OMGOSH...what to do..what to do?!

Everything aggravates him, anything you say can and will be used against you, breathing can suddenly have an "attitude." If you point out that he's in a bad mood, you're being disrespectful, and if you close your mouth and cease to speak - you're laying a guilt trip!

AHhhhh. Is your head about to explode? Do you feel something like THIS?!:

Slightly morbid...but hey, you get the "picture" *g*

~sigh~

But it happens. As the sub in this type of circumstance, what do you do? Sure, you entertain thoughts of wanting to cap him upside his head with that saucepan... but in reality, you want things back to normal, and you want to remain a faithful sub even in the hard times.

And they *are* hard times. Those days are the ones where you fight thoughts of throwing it all away, where you momentarily forget the great times, and your idea of your Dom as a person narrows to the way he's acting right then. The most difficult thing about it is not succumbing to acting out. After all, he is - so doesn't that give you the right?

Actually, it doesn't. Not if you want to avoid an eruption of emotions, the major fights, and, eventually, feeling guilty or even bitter and hateful. It takes a whole lot of strength, and a lot of maturity to step back and try to see the whole picture. I've found that, more often than not, when I find that will inside of me (because God knows I'm still pretty weak and immature most of the time), it eventually gets to him and he "sees the error of his ways." *smirk*

There's actually a verse in Proverbs that talks about how when acts of good are done in return for evil it "heaps coals of fire" upon the evil-doer's head. In other words, makes them feel bad and take a look at the way they're acting.

So here's a challenge for all the subs out there (INCLUDING MYSELF!!!), the next time he's having a rough day, and is just completely out of sorts: step back and take a look at the whole picture. Remember how much you love him, and why. Think about what you say, and the things you do. Remain respectful and obedient to any rules you have despite his attitude. And watch what happens. It may take a long time... it may even be the next day. But when he thinks about the way things normally go and begins to compare that to the way you acted this time... something will click. When that happens, you'll be able to talk openly about his "bad day" and he'll return to normal. *hopefully*

Now, like always, there are exceptions, and I won't overcomplicate things by explaining them all.

~~~

A good Dom acknowledges when he's had such bad days and been not-so-perfect in conduct. Also, he is able to evaluate himself and, yes, when necessary, APOLOGIZE! Being able to do as such is what earns the respect and honor that characterizes a true leader.

~~~

A good sub can see when her Dom is having a rough time, and tries to look at it from all angles. Instead of becoming the "second wrong", she, instead, continues to fulfill her duties as a sub. Perhaps even pushing herself a little further to please him all the more.

~~~

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