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We've been working hard on respecting each others' needs, desires, and positions. Lately I have been trying to be more submissive and respectful to him, and he has been trying to take up the reigns of leadership more thoroughly. Today, something happened and I got (justly) pi$$ed off at him and proceeded to go into a rant. Now, be it just or not, we have discussed my "freaking out" on him when I'm mad instead of calming down and talking like a sane person. I always feel bad afterwards because all it does is stir him up and we wind up in a full blast fight over something that could've been settled quietly and simply. And today, as I began my onslaught, he very calmly asked me to settle down. I marched right up to him and just kept right along. With that, he (still calmly) picked up a ping pong paddle laying on the pool table and put it up to cover my lips, "Calm DOWN." I stopped for a moment and looked into his eyes. For the first time (in this sort of situation), he took his position seriously and pulled me back in line. Thankfully I had the brains to calm down and talk more sensibly. He kept the paddle there and shushed me while he said what he had to say, then put it down and let me say what I needed to say. Because he took control of the situation, the whole thing was over in less than three more mintues and we were back to hugging and kissing each other.
That may not seem like a whole lot to some of you, but for us it was a very big step. And I'm a very happy and agreeable person right now, instead of a moody, sulking witch. Therefore, I dare say we're moving forward.... *G*
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In Dreams
"And in dreams I am free
falling into what is not;
what will be what is.
It's this intense hatred
for reality twisted
in an obsession of hope
Defy the stagnant
life that speaks only
what can be but wills not.
God's grace,
not my self fear
of what I think
I cannot be."
-rivka